Hello
Readers,
Answer this
question, how many of your close friends started with a relationship developed in
the workplace? I can name quite a few, however I can only name 2 or 3 that I am
still in contact with today. We as adults go to work to earn a paycheck and do
satisfying work along the way (well that is the way it should be); however, we
WILL meet people and start to develop relationships. We do not “plan” to meet
anyone but, because we are human and we need to “feel” loved we will naturally seek
to talk to people whether you are introverted or extroverted. I have learned along
the way some of the relationships are just for “work” and some are for a life
time. I follow these three tips to help me in discerning relationships at work.
1. Give and Take.
No this is not being selfish. In any relationship there should be a give and
take factor. I can look at all of my friends whether I met them at work or not
and I can see where I can contribute to them and I can see where they
contribute to me. Ask yourself do you find yourself always giving to the other
party and receiving nothing in return? If yes, this relationship will not last.
If you are the taker, then you may want to start evaluating how you can give
to the other party. There should be some level ground, it may not be 50/50 all
the time but, you will know how to gauge who is giving/taking more.
2. Is there
a foundation away from work? Seems like a simple factor however, very profound. If
work is all you and the other party can speak about when you talk, then you may
want to evaluate this relationship and accept it for what it is (a work relationship,
nothing more). The easiest method for this is to ask what else you share in
common with the other party. Majority of ALL relationships have something in common,
there has to be something that connected you to that person in the first place.
Remember what brought you and the other person together.
3. Support.
A “true” friend will tell you the truth and not hide anything from you. They
will always have your best interest at heart and they will not take someone else's
word about you over what they have come to learn about you themselves. Can you
meet this person at work? Yes you can. True friends are developed at work all
the time. Simply follow steps 1 and 2 and you will know if they are a true friend
or not.
These are
lessons I have learned along the way in life and still practice.
Your
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